Just To Set The Record Straight.....

So a few months ago Caitlen and I decided to let a friend move in because we have an extra bedroom and we felt bad for him because he didn't really have a permanent place to stay and was hopping from couch to couch. We figured that since he had just started a new job where Cait used to work that it would help him get back on his feet, and give him a bit of stability in his life. WHAT A HUGE MISTAKE ON OUR PART! He had been staying with us since July or August, and we let him stay there the first two months for free because we knew that he had just gotten his job, was having trouble financially and still needed to get a few things done to his new car and obtain car insurance. We cut him some slack.

After he had been staying here for free for a few months and he finally had his car things taken care of, we decided to add him onto our lease since it is month to month and he paid his share of rent. Ever since then, it has been the roller coaster ride from hell. It all started shortly after that, when we asked him to do a few of the dishes since he helps dirty them. It ended in him only doing part of the dishes and leaving the rest for us to do. Which really is not fair when you consider the fact that Cait was cooking dinner for us all every night, and that Robert (the roommate) refuses to re-use a cup EVER, so basically every cup in the house is dirty in the sink. (he is so fucking anal about things). Anyways, Caitlen confronted him and asked him to do the rest of the dishes and explained that its only fair since she cooks for us every meal, that we all take turns doing the dishes. He got mad, threw a fit and left for 3 days. The issue was never brought up again.

Now, mind you Caitlen and I have 3 pets, a dog and 2 cats. For this reason we decided that it would not really be fair to ask Robert to help vacuum and keep the apartment clean, as the animals make it pretty messy, pretty fast. So all we really were expecting is for him to not leave things lying around the apartment all the time, do his own laundry, help with the dishes when its his turn, and empty and take out the trash every now and then. I do not think that this is too much to ask of someone who is sharing an apartment with us. In fact, if you ask around, it is probably a lot less than what most people would expect. But for whatever reason, apparently asking this little of someone was too much for Robert.

Instead of doing the dishes he would leave them for days on end, until we finally would take it upon ourselves to do them. It got to the point where we no longer even bothered asking. He would never change the trash when it needed it, instead he would let it get as full as possible and once told had the nerve to tell Cait it was full. HOW HARD IS IT TO CHANGE A FUCKING TRASH BAG?

This was only the beginning. Cait and I work mon-fri from 8-1. Robert works later during the day, and sometimes late at night. I leave early from work on mondays and wednesdays to go to class. Yet every fucking day I would go home and get ready to jump in the shower, there would be Robert rushing to get into the bathroom before me, or already in the shower and taking an hour or two so I didn't even have the chance to shower if I would like. This pisses me off, he had all morning to get ready, and he waits 10 minutes before I get home to do so? NOT COOL!

Next, Robert decided he was going to sign up for a gym membership. Only one problem. He does not have a bank account. So what does he do? He pressures Cait into letting him use her card as a backup on file in case he doesn't pay the cash when its due every month. So the first payment comes up for this membership, and instead of driving down the street to pay it, what does he do? Hands caitlen $30 in coins and asks her to put it in the bank because he doesn't feel like driving the half mile down the street to pay it, even though he doesn't have to be to work for another 4 hours. THIS IS NOT OKAY! Not only is it NOT our responsibility to make sure his bills are paid, caitlen never should have let him put her card on file in the first place because now we are somewhat financially tied to him. Sure he DID give us money for it, but he should be an adult and pay it himself. Once the gym charges Caitlen, if he decides not to pay it some month then WE would be the ones paying for it. So caitlen texted his mom explaining the situation and asking if she could put her card on Robert's account instead. We had no way to get a hold of Robert to talk to him ourselves. He is never home and we don't have his number.

We went to kroger to get some groceries and as we were walking out of the store, he was getting his paycheck at the desk and he began yelling at Caitlen in the middle of Kroger in front of all of his co-workers, "If you have a problem with me, take it up with me, not my mother". I am surprised he still has a job after such a display. Of course when one co-worker walked over, Robert tried playing it off like it was Caitlen who started it, he was waving his hands and saying "you need to leave, this is not the place" NOT COOL!

Oh, I forgot to mention a day before this happened, he decided to storm into our bedroom even though it was 2:30 PM and yell at us for waking him up. We weren't even doing anything besides talking, and I laughed once at something funny that cait said. when we mentioned the fact that it was well into the afternoon he snapped "well excuse me for working a night shift", then proceeded to close our door and then slam his door. First of all, we were not intentionally being loud or doing anything rude like blasting music, we were having a conversation in normal tone voices in our bedroom. Second of all, it was 2 fucking 30!!!! And as for "working a night shift" , working until 2 AM does not count as being a night shift. Even if you came home and went to bed an hour later, that is 12 or 13 hours of sleep! How much fucking sleep does one person need? Lastly, you are in OUR home, do NOT slam our doors, or you can get the fuck out.

So after all of this happened, Robert posted on facebook "pay respect, get respect" I'm sorry, EXCUSE ME? You do not know the meaning of respect, and how dare you! After that he did not come home for about 4 or 5 days, and in the meantime was talking mad shit to his mom, telling lies, involving people from Kroger and lying to them too I am sure. posting things on facebook to start shit, etc. I called his mother and spoke to Robert. I asked if he would be home anytime soon and that we need to talk. he said that he was not sure when he would be home and that he agreed that we need to talk. I then proceeded to say, "all i have to say for now, is i understand you are upset. we all are. However, the posting things on fb needs to stop. Caitlen and I are not doing that, and neither should you. regardless whether you are living here and paying rent, this is still caitlen and I's home and we are letting you stay here, that is disrespectful." He snidely replied "okay, whatever" and hung up on me.

After this it was a week's guessing game, wondering if and when robert would be home so we could resolve everything, whether or not he would be paying rent, and if he would ever come back for his things. (he has a history of leaving his things at people's homes and moving around a lot). We tried texting his mom a few times to get in contact with him and that started a whole other bunch of problems because apparently one of their family members was sick and in the hospital, so it was bad timing for them. We apologized and eventually worked that all out, but the whole thing has just been a nightmare. Robert came back for his things and moved out. He promised us that he would pay rent but never did. He did not apologize once for the way he has treated us, for the fact that he does not help around the house enough, or for making it impossible for us to even shop at kroger anymore because all anyone does now is give us dirty looks and treat us poorly as customers. Cait mentioned to him that we can no longer shop there and he just made a snotty face and said "yeah, well".

I have to say that I have never been so glad in my life to get rid of somebody! After all that we did for him (let him stay in our home for free for a few months, only charged $220 a month in rent and utilities, let him use all of our things, our food, our computers, our phones, our car, gave him rides, picked him up from friends and family, bought him dinner and expensive clothes for his birthday), and this is how he repays us. FUCK THAT! It sucks that he never paid rent but I have given up on hoping that he might see the error of his ways and pay it, its just not going to happen.

I feel so stupid for letting someone walk all over us this way. I was trying to do a good thing and help someone out, but I guess you can't help those who don't want to be helped. Apparently, this man enjoys taking advantage of people, and using those to his advantage. He never once said thank you or apologized, he still owes us rent, and the things he said and did were disrespectful, dishonest and just plain rude.

We sure learned our lesson. NEVER AGAIN!

All I can say now is that eventually karma will catch up to him. If he is too stupid to see that it is HIMSELF who is in the wrong, then whatever. He is a loser who clearly has nothing going for himself. You can't just walk around life blaming everyone else for your own problems and mistakes. I am in no way trying to say that this is all his fault, I am sure there were things Caitlen and I could have said or done differently as well, however when someone has been homeless that many times, and lost that many friends because they took him in and then it ended in kicking him out again and a loss of a friendship, it is time to look in the mirror and ask yourself what you are doing wrong. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, especially after they go out on a limb to help you.

So to that, all I can say, is enjoy hopping around from couch to couch and finding sugar daddies to use and abuse and spend all their money on you. Enjoy freeloading and treating people like you are entitled to their things, their homes, their kindness. Keep spreading your lies and thriving on the drama you like to cause. I don't care who believes you now, because you know what? Eventually karma always catches up to people like you. You will reap all that you have sown. Someday karma will catch up to you, the truth will come out, all of those individuals at kroger and in your family, and whoever else that you have lied to will catch you in your lies and karma will be a bigger bitch to you then Caitlen and/or I could have ever been to you, and for that, good riddance.